MARK'S... ------------------------------------------------------------ * * * *** * * ***** * ***** ***** ***** ***** *** * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *** * *** * * *** *** * * * * * * * * * * * * * ***** *** * ***** ***** ***** * * ***** * * ------------------------------------------------------------ Volume 1 ~ Issue 1 ~ 29 December 1999 (C)1999 Mark Krell ------------------------------------------------------------ WHY THIS E-ZINE/NEWSLETTER? The real start of this letter came with my realization of ladies reactions to my using a wheelchair. So many of them make an instant decision that I must be a sad case, that I felt I had to develop methods for meeting ladies presenting enough of who I am before hitting them with "The Chair". I can't really blame them. I have a couple of personal friends of long-standing who disappoint me by being surprized that I get along ok, live decently, and take good care of me. The business of meeting new ladies became important when my wife of 16 years developed mental illness and continuing the marriage became impossible. Folks looked at me kinda funny when that happened. She redeemed me by trying to shoot her brother and landing in jail. In two ways that was a good thing. First, folks now think I'm a nice guy again. Isn't that nice of them? Second, jail got her to a doctor (she had been refusing help) who prescribed medication that really helped her to calm down and get back to the real world. She went from blaming me for all of her troubles and threatening to kill me to her acknowledgement that I am in no way responsible for anything that has happened, and her declaration that I am the best friend she's ever had. So much has happened that we both agreed to and cooperated in a peaceful divorce which was final earlier this year. Believing that life is best lived in the context of a good loving partnership, meeting new ladies became very important to me. I placed ads and profiles on internet dating sites, and wrote a web page containing a letter to my future sweetheart, clear statements about the type of lady I would like to meet, and information about me. What happened next surprised me. Instead of getting a few responses from possible right ladies, I received many responses from ladies who were unwilling or unable to consider involving themselves in an intimate loving relationship with me for a variety of reasons. But they all wanted to be my friend. At first, I was somewhat annoyed with their approaches reasoning that all they were doing was wasting my time and theirs to no benefit for me or them. I was nice, because thats the kind of guy I am :) I answered with as much kindness as I could summon while telling the truth. Over time I learned that they seemed to get some reassurance from my writing to them. To date I am not sure I completely understand why. I have been told that I express ideas well, and, that I express good ideas. Anyway... As my list of friends grows, it takes increasing amounts of my time to keep my friends up to date. Many have expressed interest in the "continuing saga" of my search for one good lady. Mark's LoveLetter is my solution for keeping my friends posted on current events, without having to construct many email messages. This letter will be automatically mailed to a list of recipients, saving me much time and effort. Consider this a personal letter to you and feel free to respond with your input, approval, disapproval, or whatever you wish. If it's something I think others might be interested in, I'll answer it here without giving your name. If it's truly personal, I'll respond personally as I have been doing all along. -------------------------------------------------------- WHY ARE YOU GETTING THIS NEWSLETTER? You are a personal friend of long standing. You are a new lady friend who has responded to my ad or profile on a dating site. IF YOU DO NOT WISH TO RECEIVE THIS NEWSLETTER: All that needs doing is to email to me with the Subject: No More LoveLetters ------------------------------------------------------- WHAT MIGHT YOU GET FROM THIS NEWSLETTER? Some insights into the attitudes and emotional positions entertained by and the problems experienced by men and women in today's times. ------------------------------------------------------ WILL YOU BE HELPED BY THIS NEWSLETTER? I make no claims. Because most of the people I meet are smarter than I am, it's not often that I've been able to help anybody :) ----------------------------------------------------- DEVIATES... UGH! FAT LADIES NEED LOVE TOO! These phrases were in a recent email I received... How about... Deviates need love too! Deviates and fat ladies have needing love in common. They also have in common that their approaches are not acceptable to all people. If a deviate wants to find love, they are going to have to find a partner that enjoys deviates. If a fat lady wants to find love, she's gonna have to find a guy who enjoys fat ladies. I condemn neither the deviate nor the fat lady. But... just as ladies have the right to not prefer deviates, I have the right to not prefer fat ladies. ------------------------------------------------------- WHY DID THEY THINK I HAD SOMETHING TO OFFER THEM? What prompts a lady who knows she's not Ms Right to answer an ad or profile from a fellow who's obviously looking for something she is either not willing or in no condition to provide? To date, the list of these type of respondees includes... 1. Those at great distances who are not able to relocate. 2. Those who want relationships of different types than I. 3. Those who have contracted fatal diseases. 4. Those who are not well grounded in reality. 5. Those who are still in love with their ex's. See #4 above. 6. Those who would argue the validity of my reasoning. 7. Fat ladies telling me I can't handle a REAL woman. 8. Witches who want me to run naked in the woods. 9. Submissives who want me to cause them pain. 10. Those too independent to involve themselves with another. 11. Those too afraid to involve themselves with another. 12. This space reserved for ??? All I ever wanted is one good lady. That I don't have... but everybody wants to be my friend... What is this about???? ------------------------------------------------------------- end of issue. |