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Volume 2 ~ Issue 7 ~ 18 January 2000 (C)2000 Mark Krell
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HOPE YOU HAD A HAPPY M-L-K DAY!
My initials are also M-L-K... But you can easily tell the
difference between us. (He was an activist... I'm not.)
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CRAZY LADIES...
We met at a singles group... she must have liked me because we
"got together" and she really seemed to enjoy herself... This was
years ago when I weighed 225...
I call her the next day and she says she can't see me any more
because, "You're too fat!" :(
Six months later I see her again at the same singles group...
And, there's a lot more of her to see...
I'm nice, but I'm no saint... I couldn't resist...
"Hi!... After you rejected me because of my weight, It's kinda
surprising to see so much more of you.", I said...
Obviously distressed she replies, "I know, I know... I have a
weight problem and seeing you reminded me so much of my own problem
that I just couldn't see you again."
(I liked her! I'd have gone on a diet with her!)
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A MOMENT OF SILENCE PLEASE!
We mourn the loss of two subscribers...
The lady who is still in love with her ex is gone...
Also the lady to whom I responded a couple of issues ago... Y'know,
the one who would like to think I'm looking for a weak lady.
Cest la vie... LA VIE!
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HOW I ANGERED 82% OF AN ENTIRE COUNTY!
For several years, I lived in a small town in a small county in
North Florida... I was a regular contributor to the weekly paper
there... When the 1980 US Census results were published, I reviewed
them and made some surprising discoveries...
Like... Only 18% of the adults in the county were high school
graduates...
I wrote a column based on this finding and I talked about the
shift from farming to technology many young people were facing today
in order to attain good earning potential.
In the article I suggested that "encouraging our youth to complete
high school is becoming more and more important in today's world.
BOY! DID IT HIT THE FAN!!!
Many were angry with me... "He's got a lot of nerve calling us
stupid!", was the gist of it...
Those who understood congratulated me for having the guts to write
the article, but it took a while for some folks to like me again...
From this I learned that not everybody likes me when I tell them
something they don't want to hear...
So, my advice to you is to be a nice social person and never tell
anybody anything they don't want to hear... Doesn't matter that by
doing so you may be witholding information and insights from them...
Right???
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WHO IN THE HELL ARE YOU MR. KRELL?
Mr. Krell: Who in the hell are you to think you are "the messenger"
that's supposed to tell all? Why don't you just be a nice Christian and
never say anything that isn't social or nice!
I am neither "the messenger" nor am I everybody's messenger... I was
responding to specific allegations a lady made to me.
As for social and Christian... Do we help people by telling them
only that which they wish to hear?
The most growth producing experiences in my life came from those who
cared enough about me to honestly confront me.
You want social and "Christian" behavior, read GUIDING LIGHT!
You want real world practical information, stick around!
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A JUNIOR HIGH SCHOOL TEACHER'S INFLUENCE ON ME.
She was an old lady... Prim as they get, and I don't think many of
us kids liked her very well at the time...
Now I find myself thinking about her with love.
I had her for English one year, and home room the next...
And, every time I walked into her classroom the same motto was
lettered on her black board...
"Let no day pass, whose low descending sun,
Finds no worthy action done."
This many years later, I find it hard to end a day without
doing SOMETHING worthwhile!
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ANGER...
Everybody gets angry... Anger can be negative or positive depending
on what you do with it...
Some say, "Nice people never get angry!"... I disagree...
The worst of it is when someone takes their anger at people and life
out on the people they're supposed to love.
Many people who have experienced such unjust anger develop a fearful
negative reaction to anyone expressing anger or frustration (a brand of
anger) in any situation, no matter how justified their feelings are.
Me, I try to deal with the person that's causing me the grief... I
NEVER punish anybody other than the person who is behaving towards me
with ill will or stupidity... I don't even punish the stupid because
I figure they're not gonna let themselves learn from anything or
anybody...
Sometimes I need to vent the frustration, and I get in trouble...
Waitaminute... My version of venting frustration does not include
yelling at my loved ones or doing destructive things...
It can be as simple as going through a fast food drive-in (which I
do VERY seldom) and the cashier easily qualifies as the dumbest creature
that walks the planet... After they mess up the order twice, and I make
a comment like, "Not well suited to their occupation, are they?" in a way
that they can't even hear... I get called mean...
I find it interesting that some are so tied up in their emotional
reactions to any display of negative feelings, that they are apparently
unwilling or unable to consider my feelings...
If we take the surface view of it, they're more willing to defend the
person who's causing me grief than to allow themselves to see what is
actually happening...
If you are one of those who cringes when anybody shows any negative
feeling, may I suggest...
Once you find out the person you are dealing with is reasonably sane
and does not have a propensity for destructive behavior and does not
punish you for the sins of others, don't punish them for being real and
giving brief vent to their frustrations. This leaves them open to be
the kind and loving persons they want to be.
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