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MARK'S... ------------------------------------------------------------ * * * *** * * ***** * ***** ***** ***** ***** *** * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *** * *** * * *** *** * * * * * * * * * * * * * ***** *** * ***** ***** ***** * * ***** * * ------------------------------------------------------------ Volume 4 ~ Issue 2 ~ 23 March 2000 (C)2000 Mark Krell ------------------------------------------------------------ You may remember my saying that I didn't think that foriegn ladies would be a good bet because of poor communication... I am learning that there are exceptions... Doesn't mean there aren't other problems... I like this lady because she took the time to understand what I said and because of her directness and honesty... This doesn't mean that other ladies haven't been honest with me, they have... But this one seems to have her priorities in order and it's a real shame that we couldn't connect... The story is interesting and so... ----------------------------------------------------------------- A FORIEGN ADVENTURE... Photo was in her ad at aol.com - She's cute! "Looking For Serious Love" I Am: A 52-year-old Female Living In: Other Seeking: Male for a serious relationship E-mail: *******@hotmail.com Height: 5' 6" Body Style: Slim/Slender (still shapely) Race/Ethnicity: Asian (filipina) Religion: Catholic Education: Graduate School Occupation: teacher Income: Prefer not to say Marital Status: Separated Has Children: Yes (Two boys and 2 girls all grown up) Wants Children: No Drinking: Don't Drink Smoking: Smoke Often Will Travel: Any Distance Music: When it comes to music, I'd also like to say... I love soft and romantic music. Food: The meal I can always eat is... anything not too rich and spicy The most unusual food I've ever eaten is... not very adventurous when it comes to food. My favorite restaurant is... cozy places where the music isn't too loud and the food is superb. What celebrity do people say you resemble? none What do you like to do? cuddling, snuggling, holding hands while strolling, stolen kisses, hugs. Some of my favorite musicians/albums... shania twain, barry manilow I'd also like to say... none Personal Thought or Quote... you gotta do what you gotta do. My Match: Age: 58 to 65-years-old Height: 5' 11" to 6' 5" Body Style: Athletic, Slim/Slender, Large or Few Extra Pounds Race/Ethnicity: No Preference or African-American Religion: No Preference Education: No Preference Income: No Preference Marital Status: Single, Divorced or Widowed Has Children: No Preference Wants Children: No Drinking: Drinks Occasionally Smoking: No Preference So, I write... From: Mark Krell To: *******@hotmail.com Subject: Hello Beautiful Lady... Date: Tue, 21 Mar 2000 06:55:19 -0500 I liked your personal at aol.com I invite you to visit my web page at http://eiw.com/together/ which has my photo and much more information that I could put in this email. Please read my page and decide what is most important to you. Mark mark@eiw.com She writes... At 02:05 PM 3/21/00 GMT, you wrote: Dear Mark, What can I say? To be honest I was overwhelmed with conflicting emotions after reading your profile, and I felt something tugging at my heart. I said to myself, this man needs only love, and I felt like I was the one writing that letter, looking for love and love alone. You have read my profile at aol, you are aware of my situation. I cannot get married again, but it hasn't stopped me from seeking love. Since you are being honest and frank, I will be too. Your profile is very interesting, and I read nothing that could have dissuaded me from replying. But the big question is, where will it lead to? Are you interested enough to come so we can meet? Or will you be content with just emails? I am looking for a man who will love me for what I am, I am not perfect, but I know I can be faithful and love back even more. I am not into games or whatever, time is so short to be wasted. You seem to be so full of love, I certainly hope you are, but long distance love affair I think is just a waste of time. If we initiate and strike a friendship, and find out later on that we need to be together, what then? Will you be willing to relocate, for I cannot go there, even if I want to? I know I can make my partner happy, I am devoted and full of warmth and affection plus I'm a good cook! The only thing missing in my life right now is someone who will appreciate my cooking and luxuriate in my loving. Now it is your turn to do some thinking, and let us make honesty our prime goal, okay? ***** I write... From: Mark Krell To: <*******@hotmail.com> Subject: Re: Hello Beautiful Lady... Date: Tue, 21 Mar 2000 10:55:43 -0500 Dear *****, Your personal at aol. com does not say where you live. It also does not tell me about your situation. It does say that you are willing to travel any distance. Your ad at aol implies that you are looking for an American husband. And, while your ad says that you are currently separated, people who are separated get divorced all the time, why not you? Nothing in your profile represents the impossible, yet "impossible" is the tone of your response... Years of life have taught me that people do what they really want to do... I agree with you about long-distance relationships... I want a lady to hold and love every day. I believe that every day that passes during which I am not helping a lady to feel safe and loved (and she me) is a wasted day that can never be lived again. Tell me clearly why you are an impossible lady for me to know. Your letter makes me feel like you believe there is more information in your ad at aol than is actually there. Because I know that no good relationship can be built on any foundation other than truth, honesty is the only way I deal with any woman. Please take the time to explain what I don't know from reading your ad. Where do you live? Why do you think you will never be able to marry again? Why are you not free to travel? Why is your being faithful an issue you felt you had to address in your letter? I look forward to your answers with great interest. Mark She writes... At 04:39 PM 3/21/00 GMT, you wrote: Dear Mark, I don't know how much is said in my ad, I assumed you knew I'm in the Philippines, and there is no divorce in my country. I married very young, barely 19, and separated from my husband last September. Those years I was with him were unhappy years, I wanted out, but could not because of the kids. I got 4, and had to wait till they were all grown up, before I could do something about my misery. I was not aware I gave the impression of an impossible situation, I only tried to state facts the way I saw it. The issue about faithfulness wasn't really something I purposely want emphasized. Okay, I will try to explain why I have to bring that up. Here in my country, the only acceptable reason why a marriage breaks up is if there's a third party involved. It is unheard of a woman or a man to leave the nest for lack of happiness. Not really done, and I think I am one of the few women who had the guts to do it. I guess I forgot that you are not a Filipino and there's no reason for me to bring up the fidelity issue. Why am I not free to travel? Oh, I did not say I'm not, but it is very difficult for us to obtain a visa especially to the U.S. So, if ever I would meet someone who could be a possibility, the relationship would have to take place here. I don't know if I'm making any sense, sometimes it is difficult to really express what I want to get across because of the language barrier. We Filipinos generally tend to be literal in everything we say, unlike the Americans who tend to have a lot of play on words. I hope I answered all your questions, and if you have more, feel free to ask and I will answer all with complete honesty. ***** I write... Dear Irene, I like directness and specific speech. I have always resented people who did not care about me enough to communicate clearly, and I believe that poor language use and ambiguous statements are a primary source of unhappiness between people. I understand the US immigration problem, and I'm not sure how I can deal with it at this time... an explanation is in order... Two years ago, my wife of 16 years developed mental problems, lost her job and (please forgive my not including all of it at this time) became a medical emergency by not taking care of herself... she was taken to the hospital and they had her committed to a mental facility... none of this was a result of any action of mine... my neighbors were looking at me funny and wondering what I did to her... She redeemed me by trying to kill her brother... now everybody thinks I'm ok again... isn't that nice of them :) She cost me a huge amount of money, and I lost money over the past few years when I lost my feet. BEFORE YOU FEEL TOO SORRY FOR ME... I am now cleanly divorced from her and I own my home completely (no mortgage) including furnishings. All utilities are on and the refrigerator and the freezer are full. And, while I drive an older van, it too is paid for with 32,000 miles on a new motor I put in. Here's what I am trying to tell you... While I am not "hurting" as far as living is concerned and you would certainly call me financially stable, I don't have a lot of disposable income at this time. I did not know that you were in the Philippines from your ad. If I did, I wouldn't have written to you which would have been a mistake. I wouldn't know how to relocate to your area and provide the security that I am able to provide here... A large part of how I make money depends on my presence in the US. Over time, I will recover from the misfortunes of the recent past. I know that not writing you would have been a mistake because you are EXACTLY the kind of lady that I would get great joy from "rescuing" and having you "rescue" me right back! (I loved the movie "Pretty Woman"!) You are so beautiful to me that just knowing that a woman like you might have interest in me "makes my day". I cannot imagine a day going by in which I looked at you with anything other than appreciation. OK... so I want you so bad I can taste you, but it looks impossible... What to do?... I need some time to think... I like you being "level headed" and realistic... I like the way you use language... I believe that no lady exists who deserves to be loved and made to feel safe more than you... Hmmmm... how hard is it for a gal to get into Canada or Mexico?... I've gotta do some investigating... I make no promises because I don't know what if anything can be done. Send me what photos you have scanned even if only to please an admirer of yours. There are plenty of photo's of me at my home page in the photo gallery at http://eiw.com/colonel/ They can be saved by right-clicking on them in your browser. Does your computer have a sound card and a microphone? If so, we can talk to each other over the internet for free... I would be happy to provide you with the software. What is your time difference from GMT/UCT? I have a feeling that even our tastes in food will agree. So, I don't know where this is going... All I know is that I like YOU! And, you may very well be the most beautiful girl in the world. I am providing contact information here to assure you that I am a real person. Mark Krell Street Address Buford, GA 30518-3528 USA 01 Phone Number mark@(my domain).com I find myself not wanting to end this letter. Mark She writes... Date: Tue, 21 Mar 2000 20:49:26 GMT Dear Mark, No, I'm not beautiful,I am only lucky to be photogenic. Have a great day. ***** She writes again... To: mark@eiw.com Subject: P.S. Date: Tue, 21 Mar 2000 22:20:30 GMT I looked in your "Gallery" and some of the pictures made me smile. I think I like the "convict" uniform. The shirt looked nice and I am partial with stripes. *smile* Were you able to open the attachment? It was taken last December at a school function. Good day to you. I have a mic. ***** I write... Subject: Answers... Hi *****... First, BuddyPhone is now available at http://eiw.com/buddyphone Second, it's not important whether or not you think you're beautiful. I think you're beautiful and that's what counts! Third, your attachment never made it with your email. Fourth, A hard realization... I'm a pretty creative guy and I have access to resources unknown to most people... I've been learning and problem solving today and there actually is a way to get you here permanently but it has two drawbacks... Money is one... It would require a house to be in your name for a short period and a few thousand in your bank accounts... This might be done with the help of friends... Also, it would require the expenditure of about $25,000US over here which at the moment would not be possible... These are minor problems when compared to what I feel is the real drawback... Because the idea I have is an unorthodox method, it would probably result in you never being able to visit or return to the Philippines... Asking a lady to estrange herself from her children, her grandchildren and whatever family and friends she has with no possibility of visiting them ever again is not something I feel is reasonable or loving for me to do. I really hate to make the admission that your perspectives are generally correct because of how much I like you. I also assure you that I would not have made you suffer a fresh realization of the problem and the feelings that must accompany it had I known where you were from your personal. You are such a lovely woman. I am sad about this. As for a continuing friendship between us, I leave you to choose whatever way will cause you the least amount of pain. Should you choose not to respond further, I will understand and have only good wishes for you finding your happiness. Mark SUMMARY... I only get into these things when they don't tell all they should right up front... I am not angry with this lady because I know how "2nd place" women are in the Filipino culture... I had considered going there and consorting with her so there'd be a "third person", but I have no guarantee he would sue for divorce... Without being divorced, she's closed the normal "Sweetheart Visa" channels... I believe this lady wants a better love than she can find locally... I understand her wanting it so much that she's hoping for a miracle... She has not responded again... If any of you see things in this that I didn't, tell me. ANOTHER FORIEGN LADY WROTE RECENTLY... Subject: Re: LoveLetter V4 I1 I guess is nothing else I have a good chuckle when I read your love letters, then at times I wonder why you continue to persevere, especially when you get reactions like those ladies at the Mall, how could someone do such a thing. There is a total difference between someone who is just chair bound and someone who is actually collecting for a disability and is disabled themselves. Is it because people are blind to others or that so often they just do not look because they are so wrapped up in their own little worlds. Yes I can get going too when I get started. Oh how this world is so narrow and so lost in its own happenings. The one thing that I love about you is your honesty, your down to earth humour and the fact that you can laugh at yourself. Sometimes I wish I was closer so that I could just drop by and give you a good hug. Yes I know Im not your ideal lady, but I would love to be your good friend.!! Hugs to you honey, from that funny lady down under. Yours ****** To this dear lady I say... You ARE my good friend! And, your question deserves an answer... I have known for years that there are many foolish or stupid or cruel or lazy or unloving or certifiably crazy people of both genders in our world... I also know that there are some nice souls who truly motivate from a loving position towards others... I know that many of these have fears of becoming close with another, mostly due to previously sustained hurts... And, I'm not forgetting that many will fear what their lives will become if they tie up with a "chair bound" person... With a problem this hard, why do I persevere?... How about my letting you make my choice for me?... Check the path you think I should follow... (__) I sit in a corner and eat worms... I don't try to find a good sane loving lady... I deprive that not found lady of the happiness I might have helped her to have... And, me?... I grow old alone and unloved. (__) I bring to the job of finding a good sane loving lady that which it takes to get the job done!... However long it takes!... When I find her, WE WIN!... And neither of us grows old alone and unloved. To YOU I say... What the h*ll's going on here???... Don't you think there's something wrong when I'm doing better with the foriegn ladies than those of American persuasion?... -------------------------------------------------------------------- CRAZY LADIES... Nah!... After the above issue, you don't wanna hear what I'd write today! :) ------------------------------------------------------------------ THE REAL "CRAZY LADIES" FOR THIS ISSUE... OR EXTRA-TERRESTRIALS?... I like to think of myself as open minded, but back in my younger days I was REALLY open minded... When the gal came to me saying she was visited by three spirits from the lost city of Atlantis, I was interested... She spoke with so much authority that I asked her to allow me to hypnotize her so I could speak with them, to which she agreed... There I was, talking to souls from the lost city of Atlantis! They not only told me about history, but they said they could see the future as well! Just before I was ready to say, "Hot Damn!", I decided to perform an empirical (scientifically provable by evidence) test... Being in Philadelphia at the time, I asked them if they could see the race winners at the Liberty Bell Harness Race Track for the next evening... I assured them that I was not out to make money on them; that I would bet only $2 on each race and donate any winnings to charity... HEY! I really wudda!... Armed with their winner predictions, I went to the track with the gal and bet $2 on each of the first five races... NOT A SINGLE WINNER! Sorry... $10 is my spending limit on lost souls from Atlantis! --------------------------------------------------------------- Previous LoveLetters can be read at http://eiw.com/loveletters/ Feel free to recommend LoveLetters to those of your friends to whom it may be helpful or entertaining... http://eiw.com/loveletters/ If you no longer wish to receive LoveLetters, send an email to me with "No More LoveLetters" as the subject. ----------------------------------------------------------- end of issue.

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